Wednesday, 8 February 2017

How to Get Out of The Blogging Slump

I feel about as creative as a blank sheet of paper right now, my creative juices have well and truly dried up, possibly even shrivelled up and FYI, that is not good.

I have all these ideas in my head, they sound so amazing, I astound myself with how bloody brilliant they will be. I'll create the flat lay made of dreams, cosy up in my pyjamas, turn on my little rose gold lamp and get my laptop all set up. I'll tweet the shit out of my brand spanking new post and then I'll revel in it's success, all whilst I sip my tea like a sassy arse girl boss. The reality being that you can deffo see my dirty underwear in the background of my photo, my laptop is slowly dying on 3% and I can't be bothered to go downstairs to fetch the charger, so instead I drive to Tesco, buy a ready meal for one and drown myself in tea whilst I half hardheartedly binge on Netflix - cause twitter.

Seriously, what is with me?

I cannot get myself out of this blogging slump, it's like I've fallen down a ditch and I'm too comfy to get out, which in all fairness is kinda how it feels. I've struggled with my mental health over the past couple of months and I know it's a likely story but I do suffer with anxiety, not every day, in fact not really very much on the grand scheme of things but enough to take it's toll.

Blogging used to be my safe haven, now it's a little bit daunting. I don't feel good enough, my content doesn't feel good enough, you know when you feel like you need to write but the words just aren't making sense, they just aren't coming out? That blank screen is possibly the worst, because it signify's your mind and when it's empty it signifies that you are possibly slightly lost. No words equal no thoughts, or at least no thoughts good enough to write down or perhaps too many thoughts that are too confusing to make sense of.

You put out what you want to and sometimes you just don't want to be seen and you don't want to be heard and that is really absolutely fine, you don't need to justify yourself and you don't need to frantically search for post ideas, going for a long walk might help you come up with something but then it might also just give you blisters. I don't believe in curing writers block, writing is one of the most natural things in the world and if you can't find the words then just don't even try.

I know it's easier said than done if you rely on blogging as your main source of income, I cannot even begin to fathom how stressful it must feel to have that pressure to produce the goods consistently day by day, I guess this is where forward planning comes in. I wrote half of this post last night at 2 am after I got off the phone to my gal pal who was having guy dramas, I was listening but my mind was also whirring away with a billion thoughts that I just had to get written down. I wrote this in about 10 minutes, probably because for the first time in 3 months it appears to be the only thing that has come naturally to me, I'm writing the words that make the most sense not struggling to string together a sentence about a lipstick or a new cushion from H&M home, I'm just like yep I'm struggling and that is totally okay because at least I'm being honest about it.

I guess I just want you to know that you are not alone, we all have those moments where we need to step back and accept defeat and it may take you far longer than you had hoped to pick yourself back up but you will and everyone will still be here when you get back, with open arms and a whole lot of lovin'.
Falling off the face of the earth is really completely fine.
You just do what you gotta do.

1. Remember To Just Go With It

"Ride the pain" - Someone once said this to me after a breakup and as much as I wanted to punch them in the face I was kind of digging it too. "Don't suppress" they said and they were right, sometimes you just have to give in to how you feel. I tried forcing myself to write something crap about some makeup products I may or may not have been loving over Christmas and then I was like no, this is shit and it's not even me so I deleted it. I then had an empty hole on my blog for 2 months with absolutely no fresh content but at least I wasn't lying.

2. Don't Dwell in Self Pity

There is a difference between taking some time out and never leaving your bed.
I know better than anyone how tempting it can be to dwell on life and feel like you are never gonna get out of this black hole that you are in but it's gonna get you absolutely no where so get up, throw your hair in a bun, wash your face, brush your teeth and put on some fresh joggers cause the world needs you and you can totally do this. It's that or you stay miserable for the rest of your life, I know life isn't black and white but sometimes you just have to view it that way.

3. Remind Yourself of What Makes You Happy

All it took was a single twitter chat one evening to remind me of how wonderful the community of bloggers really is, how supportive and inspirational. It struck such a chord with me that it literally inspired me to write something real, something I was proud of. It gave me that kick up the butt, that inspiration to do what I loved and do what makes me proud of myself, sometimes what you need is there right in font of you the whole time, you just have to open your eyes.

So I guess really my answer is you don't just get over it, you ride that slump.

That sounded better in my head.